How traditional? Many years ago, when brides were all sweet young things passing from the support and protection of their fathers to the support and protection of their husband, the marriage took place at the church attended by the bride's family. Her family covered any expenses involved with the ceremony itself and also the expenses of any breakfast, supper, tea, ball, or other social event perceeding or following the ceremony. After the wedding journey (now called honeymoon), the groom's family often gave a supper, tea, ball, or other social event to welcome the bride to her new home.
In modern times, the bills are sent to whoever is generous enough to volunteer to pay them. The only etiquette rule is that social occasions may not be used to browbeat the unwilling into assuming financial burdens they prefer to avoid.
"Traditional" often wars with reality. My parents are fairly poor, but the groom's mother has money she is generously giving us towards the wedding. You have to go with the times.
In México, the groom's parents provide the dress and accessories for the bride, and in some cases, the booze, the bride's parents pay for everything else. I know my dad paid for the booze when my brother got married, but he knows how our side of the family drinks (plus he invited 3 times more guests than the bride's father), it would have been abusive of him to expect the bride's father to pay for the alcohol.
Traditionally, the brides parents pay for everything except the rehearsal dinner, which is paid by the grooms parents. A lot of couples are paying for their own weddings and any help from either set of parents is very acceptable.
I think the two major things that the groom's parents pay for are the rehearsal dinner and liquor at the reception.
But anything goes these days. I think sitting down with both sets of parents is a good idea- just to see what everyone else has in mind.
In these days I feel the Bride and Groom should pay for as much as possible on their own..
i mean this isn't the dark ages anymore
everthing together
There doesn't seem to be a "traditional" wedding anymore. These days, really anything goes. What I reccomend, is sitting down with both sets of parents, and talk about budget BEFORE any planing starts. Then put financial plans down in writing, to save any confusion down the line.
The Bride's parents pay for the wedding, the Groom's parents pay for the booze and the food at the reception.
brides parents pay for everything except the rehearsal dinner and the tuxes and honeymoon.
The financial responsibilities for a "traditional" wedding are rarely followed today, with each couple contributing to the wedding as well as parents and other family members. However, if your parents are financially able and willing to follow tradition...why not?
Here is what Emily Post would say:
Bride's family: wedding consultant, Invites (all printed material), Gown and accessories, Flowers , Photography/Videography, Music, Transportation of Bridal party, the reception, Bride's gifts, Grooms ring, accommodations for bride's attendants, Bridesmaid's luncheon
Groom's family: Bride's engagement and wedding rings, Officiant's fee, marriage license, transportation for groom and best man to ceremony, honeymoon, rehearsal dinner, accommodations for groom's attendants.
Good luck!
Bride's parents-wedding and reception
Groom's parents-rehersal dinner, sometimes honeymoon.
Groom's parents - rehearsal dinner, groom's tux.
Bride's parents - EVERYTHING ELSE
a traditional wedding the brides parents pay for everything but that aint going to happen for me my parents have 4 girls and no boys.
Bride's parents usually pay for the reception, dresses, tuxedos, cars and all the stuff. Groom's parents usually take care of the service (paying the priest for example) and the liquor cost.
The bride should pay for the guests she invites and the groom should pay for the guests he invites. Besides the wedding dress and tux, everything should be split half half
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