Is it true that all of the bride's attendants are supposed to host a shower, or is it only the maid of honor?

I have heard before that the maid of honor is supposed to host a wedding shower for the bride. I've also heard that all of the bridesmaids are supposed to host showers. Please cite a source!

The maid of honor is traditionally the host.

However, the maid of honor will generally involve/include the other bridesmaids. However, one shower is sufficient. Talk to the bride about the guest list - people who are invited to the shower should be invited to the wedding as well. When people have more than one shower, it's usually because friends or families are too far away to travel for the shower, so there might be another shower in another state or something.

I'm assuming you are a bridesmaid? Just speak to the other girls and see what they are thinking.

Traditionally, the Maid of Honor is suppose to organize the shower. The bridesmaids are also suppose to be actively involved in the planning and funding of the event, if they Maid or Honor wishes.

However, this is one of those traditions that's quickly being thrown out the window. Which is a nice breath of fresh air. In today's society, anyone (besides the bride herself) who wishes to organize a shower can. It's even becoming increasing common, popular and acceptable for the mother of the bride or the mother of the groom to host the shower. Long ago, that was considered a really big NO-NO, because it was seen as self-servicing for a mother to throw her daughter a shower where gifts are given.

But, it makes sense for this tradition to be changing. Everything related to weddings and showers is such expensive. It's really difficult for one person to pay for everything and have the time to plan everything too. Normally, the mother of the bride is in a better financial position to fund the shower, then a bunch of young 20 something bridesmaids who are just starting out.

If you are a Maid of Honor in an upcoming wedding, I'd sit back for a while and see if anyone else offers to throw the shower. I know in my case, my mother is probably going to throw my shower and I know she's not really expecting anyone in my bridal party to do it. If you see that no one is stepping up, then get all the bridesmaids together and get some ideas going.

WEDDING SHOWERS

Bridal showers were traditionally given by the friends of the bride. Ironically not by a family member. This was to alleviate the thought that the family was soliciting gifts for the bride-to-be. In addition, immediate family members on the groom's or bride's side, should not give the shower (ex. mothers, grandmothers, sisters. aunties, and cousins)

Members of the bridal party, coworkers and/or friends are appropriate hostesses of the bride's wedding shower

Can I have 20 Bridal Showers???

Answer: NO As a rule of etiquette, the number of showers should in act be limited to two. This eliminates the burden on potential gift-givers being plagued with obligations that become highly expensive. Family members (including the moms on both sides) should attend. In addition the attendants, including junior bridesmaids should attend as well. Showers should be intimate for family & very close friends.

Anyone can host a shower - maid of honor, bridesmaids, relatives of the bride or groom, friends, etc. Oftentimes, the maid of honor plans the shower with the help of the bridesmaids. But it is also common for the bride's mother or aunts or cousins to throw the shower.

Some brides end up having more than one shower because of location. Their bridesmaids might throw one in the city where they currently live, while Mom and Aunt Susan might throw one in the bride's hometown when she's home for a visit.

There's no rule. Do what works best for your situation. There's no source to cite because this is entirely up to you.

WHO USUALLY HOSTS THE BRIDAL SHOWER?

A bridal shower is usually given by the maid of honor, the bridal party (as a group) or a close friend(s) and is usually kept as a secret from the bride. Traditionally, it was considered inappropriate for the bride's immediate family to host the shower, since it would appear that they are simply asking for gifts. Today it is an acceptable practice to involve close family, whether it be by allowing family members to help out with the cooking, or catering costs, or even offer their home as the spot the shower is to be hosted at.

The maid of honor is basically responsible, but the bridesmaids help if they can at all. It's a group effort, not individual showers.

A source? It's just etiquette, but is not a law that is written in stone. Many brides have showers given by friends of their mothers who have known them their entire lives. It's just whoever can handle the task.

All of the bridesmaids plan and host the shower together. They also chip in to finance it.

Why would all the bridesmaids host their own shower. That's so greedy on the part of the bride.

I've never even heard that before.