Tuesday, September 8, 2009

What wedding traditions should a 43 yr old bride who is remarring, consider proper?

I know anything goes but I like tradition and wonder what things I may need to consider as I plan my wedding.

Anyone with with insight, I would love the feedback


Typically 2nd marriages are supposed to be more low-key than first weddings, but in practical terms that just means it shouldn't be a big raucous affair. Purists say that a woman who's getting remarried shouldn't wear white (ivory is supposed to be all right), or a full-length trained gown and veil.

Start with the basics something old, new, borrowed and blue. If you had a big wedding before you may just want to have a something simple and private with immeidate family and a few freinds. They say the second time around it better.....GOOD LUCK!

Observe the traditions that you feel comfortable with. Really the only tradition that you should consider changing your wedding for would be the typical "white dress" question. But even then, you don't really have to.

My aunt got remarried. She had a beautiful wedding at a spot overlooking a mountain pass. She wore a stunning floral gown and her bridesmaids wore similar styles. It was formal, but not scripted. The reception was at their fave restaurant. She said she enjoyed herself more this time around because she wasn't consumed with the details (flowers on the pues, renting the reception area, worrying whether the caterer would show, etc.) She was free to enjoy her new husband without feeling like she was rushing around.

:) Whatever you do, I wish you happiness!!

Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue. Kinda cheesy, but I think it's cute. In reality, it doesn't matter what you do, as long as what you do is special and will make memories that will last. Congratulations by the way!

you can do whatever you'd like to do for your wedding, even wear white if you'd like......

well you can't wear a white dress, that's about all I know

you can do all of it except white dress is for 1st time brides only

You can wear any color you want. You can have any traditions you want.

Depending on how big/elaborate/expensive your first wedding was, you might get some backlash if you throw another big wedding. (Especially if you are registering for gifts with big price tags.)

(And no - white dresses are not only for virgins. Women didn't even wear white to weddings until after Queen Victoria did. Aristocratic women before then got married in brightly colored dresses, because it was their first opportunity to do so, having been forced to wear pastels while they were debutants. And peasant women just got married in whatever dress they had, because they couldn't afford a new dress. So if you want to wear a white dress, go for it.)

I would include any traditions that you like even wearing a white wedding dress. I wouldn't worry about it being your second marriage. In today's society, all traditions are done in a second marriage just as in a first if the bride likes and wants them.

well my mother in law is getting married in April it is her 3rd wedding and she is very much in love with him. she is 45. she is going to ware the hole white wedding dress however it is lined with her color (red) and it looks very classy. she is having her oldest son walk her down the asel. she isn't have a typical "BRIDLE SHOWER" he is having a girls day out at the local spa nails done and pampering. you can dentally still do the something borrowed something blue something old something new. DONT FOR GET THE PENNY IN YOU LEFT SHOE. :)

I would say keep it simple and invite close family and friends only. At this stage of the game it's not about how big your wedding is, it's about sharing this special day with the people who mean a lot to you. Don't wear white. You can wear cream color dresses. Don't wear a veil. Pretty much anything else goes. Good luck!

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