What are the best ideas for a bridal shower for the "mature bride?"?

My father is getting married and I am the maid of honor, his fiance's daughter is the matron of honor and together we are thinking of planning something for her mother. Since she is an older woman, a traditional shower may not be the best idea - what are some other ideas?

La Bella's got it right. Skip the traditional "shower" idea and simply meet for lunch or dinner. Perhaps you might want to give a little welcome to the family speech and small meaningful gift. Find out if she needs anything for the wedding (I.e. earrings, etc.). One idea could be a "family birthstone" ring or bracelet comprised of all of your birthstones. She can wear it for the wedding.

Congrats on your new family! It sounds like you all get along very well!

Best wishes!

DO you have a local cafe / restaurant that does a traditional afternoon tea? I went to a bridal shower for an older bride that was an afternoon tea and it was great. The invitation read "Hats, gloves and pearls optional" but everybody turned up wearing them. A lot of Mimosas were drunk, a lot of laughs were had, a great afternoon out and something a little different.

The party my MOH is planning for me could be perfect for her.

It'll be a "wine and fondue" night where we'll hang out, do presents, chat it up, and eventually watch some classic romantic films (think Casablanca and the like).

Could be right up her alley! Very classy and adult :)

You should plan a brunch at a fancy cafe. Many cafes have meeting rooms that you can also rent for small parties. That way it has the "mature bride" feel and you can still have the fun of celebrating.