Responsibilities at Wedding Events

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Bride: Her side of the family is in charge of compiling the wedding list. She chooses her attendants (maid and/or matron of honor, bridesmaids), making sure that one of her sisters and a sister of the groom are included. She selects their dresses. Before the wedding, she gives some sort of party for them. She also gives each one a gift.

Brides' parents: Traditionally, the wedding arrangements have been the province of the bride's mother. No matter who pays for the wedding, she is its official hostess. The father of the bride hosts the wedding. He escorts his daughter down the aisle.

Brides' attendants: The maid and/or matron of honor help the bride dress and perform other services when asked. During the wedding the attendants may hold the bride's bouquet, arrange her train, hand her the groom's ring.

Groom: He chooses his attendants (best man and ushers) making sure to include a brother or his own and a brother of the bride. He takes charge of the bachelor dinner, though he may leave the arrangements to someone else. He gives each attendant a gift.

Groom's Parents: The bridegroom's parents invite the bride's parents over. Then the bride's parents reciprocate. The bridegroom gives the bachelor dinner, and the bridegroom's family gives the rehearsal dinner.

Best Man: The best man may be the busiest individual of all at a wedding. He:

1. Supervises the activities of the ushers, including their apparel;


2. Makes sure the ushers' presents are wrapped in time;


3. Sees to it that the men's boutonnieres and bride's bouquet have been ordered;


4. Helps arrange for transportation for all wedding events;


5. Leads off toasts and assigns toasts at the bridal dinner and wedding reception (toasting the bride first), and takes charge of seeing that everyone who should be is toasted;


6. Makes sure that the groom is dressed (wedding license in pocket) and on time for the wedding;


7. Carries the ring and payments for clergyman and church;


8. Witnesses the signing of the wedding certificate;


9. Acts as a general problem solver.

Ushers: Ushers seat wedding guests, giving an arm to all women and escorting them down the aisle. The bride's friends and relatives are seated on the left, the groom's on the right except when there is a lopsided guest list-in which case, it is more important to even out the numbers of people sitting on each side of the church. Five minutes before the wedding ceremony is to begin an usher escorts the mother of the groom to her place (first row on the right), then an usher escorts the bride's mother to her place (first row on the left).

This article has been submitted in affiliation with http://www.Prye.Com/ which is a site for Wedding Invitations.

The Question and Answer Session Before Wedding

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Marriage is a very important alliance, the decision of which is not only taken by the bride or the groom, but the verdict of the families of both the bride and groom also matters a lot. Both the bride and the groom, needs to pass a lot of tests, before each of their parents choose a perfect match for them. The parents from both the sides, test each others children on the basis of the criteria they have set in mind or the expectations, they have from their son- in- law or daughter- in- law. It becomes a very tough and sometimes embarrassing situation, for the girl or the boy, because in some cases it goes over the head in asking questions.

The parents should also try and think from the point of view of the children, that what they would like to be asked and which at times can make the bride or the groom nervous, about his being there. Especially, in case of the bride, the mother- in- laws act very curious and sometimes very interrogative about her interests, likes and dislikes. This question and answer session to a limit is fine, but going head over heals in peeping into details is really very uncomfortable for the girl at times. But the parents don't understand this, for them, getting clarifications over issues, is only what matters. There are many silly things, which parents tend to ask the bride, which should be avoided by the parents, some of those questions include topics like:

-The TV programmes or the serials watched by the bride
-What colour of clothes she likes to wear
-Is she interested in watching movies of a particular actor or actress
-The number of parties she has gone, etc

These are few of the questions, which certainly puts the bride in odd situations. And one more problem faced by the girls, before the marriage, is that, she gets to be pointed out, when she asks questions from the guy, by being tagged as the one, who is very clever, or called as dumb, even when she does not speak anything. So the best way for the girl is to counter- question for the same details as asked by the groom from the bride. Asking questions from each other is really important for both the would- be bride and groom, because the decision of marriage is really important and a life long decision, on which the future of two lives is dependent.

In case of arranged marriages, the bride and the groom get only few minutes to meet and match their compatibility, after which they have to make their judgement towards each other. It is the toughest of the decisions taken by them, because these few minutes hold the power to change the entire life of the bride and groom. The decision needs a lot of concentration, mind and heart to be put in, before making the final verdict. A proper research should be done, about the guy, before meeting him, so that he or she is able to clarify his doubts about the guy or girl. Also, the availability of social networking sites has made the process lot easier and knowing details about the perspective groom or bride is no more a tough task to do. So, the boy or the girl can be surer about the alliance he is going to make. Thus, one can say, that these decisions are to be taken very carefully and after full research and survey about the bride or the groom, to feel more contented and safe about the future.

Gurleen Kaur writes on behalf of Jeevansathi.com, which is India's fastest growing matrimonial website, provides online Indian matrimonial classified services. Jeevansathi.com enables users to create an Indian matrimony profile on the website and allow prospective grooms and brides to contact each other. Users can search for profiles through advanced search options on the website. Users can avail free registration and make initial contact with each other through services available on Jeevansathi.com via Chat, SMS, and e-mail.

Tips For Successful Wedding Father of the Bride Speeches

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1: You can be creative with wedding father of the bride speeches, but most follow a format as follows: intro, thanks, bride story, groom introduction/welcome to family, advice/comments about marriage, and toast. Even if you choose not to follow this format, do not forget to thank anyone who helped with the wedding, welcoming the groom and in laws to the family, or to mention how beautiful your daughter looks!

2: Be yourself! Yes, you have heard this advice all your life but it also applies to the bride's father wedding speeches. If you are not a sentimental person, do not try to write a poem or be overly emotional. On the contrary, do not try to be humorous if it is not your natural style.

3: Prepare ahead of time for wedding father of the bride speeches. You should write out your ideas in an outline and practice delivering your speech in front of an audience (or record it). For the wedding day, bring along note cards but do not bring a script. Reading from a script will make you sound insincere. Also, nervous people tend to read very fast and you will rush through your wonderful wedding speech.

4: Keep the father of the bride speech short. This can be tough, especially since you probably have a lot to say about giving your daughter away. You have a bit of leeway with your speech because it comes first. Still, the wedding party has to listen to several more speeches after you and you do not want to bore them. Try to keep your father of the bride speech around 700-1000 words in length.

5: Always be positive about marriage and the union. It is perfectly acceptable for the bride's father to rip on the groom a little, but your goal is to welcome him into the family. It is also custom for the bride's father to offer the newlyweds advice about marriage. It can be funny but you want to send them off into their life together with hope and good wishes.

6: Do not forget your manners during your speech. You can ease your way into the speech by welcoming everyone and discussing the menu options. After your speech, you may turn over the mic to the groom and introduce him in a positive way.

Find more wedding bride's father speech examples by visiting sample wedding speeches web site.