Why are brides so obsessed about being the perfect bride? What are they afraid will happen?

I was so focused on making things perfect and memorable but I think mostly for myself and family. Is this common for most brides? I've been to weddings where the bride really doesn't care and it was obvious. Shabby flowers, no favors, no thought into planning anything. Is it just frugal?

aren't you a bit of a bag!

no favours? shabby flowers? no thought?

ever occur to you that not everyone is a b-itchbride?

that some brides actually believe the wedding isn't the be all and end all?

and maybe what you consider shabby is the best they could afford?

or they felt spending the money elsewhere was more important?

that they didn't feel it necessary to impress everyone with some ridiculously huge event?

grow up girl, it isn't the wedding that counts - its the marriage.

in the future why don't you ask the bride for her plans so that you can decide ahead of time if her wedding is worthy of your miserable attendance.

i hope i don't know you - i don't like your attitude.

babe i'm not the one that needs to lighten up or relax.

you really need to take a good long look at the judgemental kind of person you have become.

take your stars and well.......you know. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/accuse_write?qid=20070905094900AAm9oCC&kid=Q81MDFX5BFYUuP4rPN_a&s=comm&date=2007-09-05+21%3A32%3A18&.crumb=

Sweetie. Whatever you say, please keep the stars and BTW you don't know me. Take a long look at you cartoon character icon and think hmmm this is not reality. It's a message board. Find your friends in the playground. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/accuse_write?qid=20070905094900AAm9oCC&kid=AodxAEv5DXmlW6yOx5vj&s=comm&date=2007-09-06+06%3A44%3A04&.crumb=

Think of it like this: you have one shot in life to get your wedding right. Mine is in December and you better believe I am micro-managing every detail to my perfection!

I think people just have different ideas of what makes a wedding. I have seen weddings on both ends of the spectrum, but in all cases the bride & groom were so happy, and thats the important thing. Somewhere in the middle would be ideal: intent on being a good host/hostess, while not becoming bridezilla on the tiniest details.

some people just are unable to plan things. Some people can not afford to have a big to do but try.

If a bride throws a wedding together,chances are,shes not all that keen on committment but following the advice of others and "doing the right thing".My biggest pet peeve are women that go all out on their wedding after they have shacked up for many years.Some have even raised several children before "tying the knot"

For many brides it their one chance to shine and prove to the world "this is what I can do". Which is not a totally bad thing. Many brides find a lot of self confidence after planning a successful wedding - some though find too much and buy in to the 'bride as queen' philosophy and carry it through to their lives in general.

I too was one that made sure my guests were my priority - I was married in May and even on Mother's Day weekend ( which was also 11 months after my own Mother had passed away) so I made sure all the Mothers at the reception were given flowers and had a special dance for them; it was a big birthday weekend in our families as well, so I had a birthday cookie brought out with candles and we all sang - it's those types of things that make a wedding 'perfect' in my eyes at least, not whether or not the ribbon on the birdseed bags match the color of the napkins.

No, the reason why is because ever since you were little, you were taught that your wedding is your day to shine. That it is "YOUR DAY". And i don't know about you, but when its a special day, i want to look as good as possible. as well as everything my taste. Cause in my eyes, it is beautiful. If its my day, i want it to be perfect. Besides, your only suppose to have one wedding. now a days, people are having 2 or 3, so i don't know what to tell you.

The wedding like the funeral is for others and the brides that care want it to be their day, one that is memorable to others and that they can remember for the rest of their lives. Most brides want things to be the best that they can be so that people will be inpressed. If they have the money some tend to go over board while others can be frugal and still have a very beautiful and impressionable wedding. The stress comes from living up to everyone's expectation of what your day should be and how you should try to please everyone else, including friends and family members.

Now, there are bridezillas and they are B rhyming with Witch brides and they are just hateful, spoiled, mean, snappy and wanting things their way and they are demanding and demeaning to others - they don't have to be but weddings like funerals bring out either the best or the worst in people and weddings like funerals are for everyone else and not really for the people who are the host.

they just dont want to look back on it with any regret and think that if that is perfect then their marriage will be perfect

Because they want their to be perfect of course. Although, it may become very stressing and might even cause problems between the bride and groom. I happened to me when i got engaged i couldnt even sleep just thinking about the wedding, in the end all that planning made me realize that the guy i was marrying was not the one. Anyways, sorry thats not even related to the question. Theres nothing wrong with wanting everything to be perfect just dont go let it get to you to the point where you just cant be relaxed. Remember the most important thing is your happiness.

No wedding is perfect. At every wedding something goes wrong. Every woman wants to be the 1st to have the perfect wedding to brag to the whole world they pulled it off 1st.