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Marriage is a very important alliance, the decision of which is not only taken by the bride or the groom, but the verdict of the families of both the bride and groom also matters a lot. Both the bride and the groom, needs to pass a lot of tests, before each of their parents choose a perfect match for them. The parents from both the sides, test each others children on the basis of the criteria they have set in mind or the expectations, they have from their son- in- law or daughter- in- law. It becomes a very tough and sometimes embarrassing situation, for the girl or the boy, because in some cases it goes over the head in asking questions.
The parents should also try and think from the point of view of the children, that what they would like to be asked and which at times can make the bride or the groom nervous, about his being there. Especially, in case of the bride, the mother- in- laws act very curious and sometimes very interrogative about her interests, likes and dislikes. This question and answer session to a limit is fine, but going head over heals in peeping into details is really very uncomfortable for the girl at times. But the parents don't understand this, for them, getting clarifications over issues, is only what matters. There are many silly things, which parents tend to ask the bride, which should be avoided by the parents, some of those questions include topics like:
-The TV programmes or the serials watched by the bride
-What colour of clothes she likes to wear
-Is she interested in watching movies of a particular actor or actress
-The number of parties she has gone, etc
These are few of the questions, which certainly puts the bride in odd situations. And one more problem faced by the girls, before the marriage, is that, she gets to be pointed out, when she asks questions from the guy, by being tagged as the one, who is very clever, or called as dumb, even when she does not speak anything. So the best way for the girl is to counter- question for the same details as asked by the groom from the bride. Asking questions from each other is really important for both the would- be bride and groom, because the decision of marriage is really important and a life long decision, on which the future of two lives is dependent.
In case of arranged marriages, the bride and the groom get only few minutes to meet and match their compatibility, after which they have to make their judgement towards each other. It is the toughest of the decisions taken by them, because these few minutes hold the power to change the entire life of the bride and groom. The decision needs a lot of concentration, mind and heart to be put in, before making the final verdict. A proper research should be done, about the guy, before meeting him, so that he or she is able to clarify his doubts about the guy or girl. Also, the availability of social networking sites has made the process lot easier and knowing details about the perspective groom or bride is no more a tough task to do. So, the boy or the girl can be surer about the alliance he is going to make. Thus, one can say, that these decisions are to be taken very carefully and after full research and survey about the bride or the groom, to feel more contented and safe about the future.
Gurleen Kaur writes on behalf of Jeevansathi.com, which is India's fastest growing matrimonial website, provides online Indian matrimonial classified services. Jeevansathi.com enables users to create an Indian matrimony profile on the website and allow prospective grooms and brides to contact each other. Users can search for profiles through advanced search options on the website. Users can avail free registration and make initial contact with each other through services available on Jeevansathi.com via Chat, SMS, and e-mail.
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